Leading change consciously | Amin Kaboli | TEDxEcublens


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Amin Kaboli explores how to lead change and keep the bond and connection with oneself and others. In this talk, he shares three simple but powerful lessons that led him to transform himself and support executives and their companies to drive change consciously. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx <br> <h3>Auto Generated Captions</h3>

thank you thank you good evening
there is nothing permanent in this
physical world except change why to be
resisted then years ago I got my PhD
from epfl and I worked as an executive
in a corporate environment everything
looked great
outside but I didn’t feel good inside I
had what I longed for yet it didn’t make
me happy anymore I knew and I was a ver
that I needed a change but I was
resisting I decided to take a vacation
and go to an island one late afternoon I
was sitting by the Atlantic Ocean I’m
watching the sunset imagine a mountain
range on my left and a tourist blue
ocean Amorite
waves were crashing the air had this
fresh smell of the ocean and the song
was sitting on the ocean on the horizon
and I was enjoying the warmth of Sun on
my head and on my shoulder I observed a
bird in the sky and as I felt a light
ocean breeze in my face I saw the bird
flew upward and as the breeze decreased
the bird gently got back down to the
same level it was flying before I asked
myself if this bird can adapt and
smoothly change its path then how can I
bring more harmony in my life how can I
relearn accepting and embracing change
now let me ask you a question
how many of you have felt
resistance then the change was needed
it’s a bit dark but I can see some hands
there alright I’m not the only one in
this room
research shows 70% of all change
initiatives in organisations fail this
is two out of three that’s not because
of technology that’s not because of
system that’s because of us people
that’s because they stained rationale in
leading and driving change and he
ignored emotions indeed we failed to
connect and bond for over ten years
I coached and consulted executives and
trained organizational leaders ranging
from fortune 500 to entrepreneurial
firms what I dominantly am frequently
observed is that most of us resist
change and we cannot accept and embrace
it easily our research in change
management has a lot to offer and say
about the best way to approach
organizational change and transformation
but when it comes to leading oneself and
driving change many of us a struggle I
would like to share with you three
lessons that have learned about leading
change consciously the first lesson that
I learned is we cannot stop the wind of
change but we can learn how to sail in
our daily lives views terms like
uncertainty mass or discomfort to label
change ancient cultures called it
impermanence and left this fact
masterfully a shorter story may better
describe this concept there was a very
powerful Persian king who once called
his advisors or wise men together and
for one quote that would be accurate at
all time and in all situations
challenging the voice bank got together
consulted with each other for months and
finally came up with an answer which
they inscribed in a ring for the king
the answer was or the quote was this too
shall pass the ring was a reminder for
the King to stay present because this
moment won’t last if we pay attention we
see changes happening all the time
around us in our physical world we grew
older we get wrinkled and some like me
lose hair and we change and move to
different cities and countries and we
change our jobs changes unavoidable and
at this digital error it happens at an
even faster pace what is surprising is
how obvious the nature of changes and
yet we are still surprised by change it
seems we count on things a saying in a
very permanent way or if things gonna
change it should be according to our
will I believe we are pre-programmed by
our cultures we are influenced by our
education and we have the illusion that
things are stable and permanent they are
not being able to expand our perception
and direct our attention to the nature
of change and practice this
understanding leads us to value more and
appreciate more this very precious
moment in other words there is always a
wind of change we should learn how to
the second lesson that I learn is in any
given situation we have a choice a
choice to make friends with change a
choice to accept an embrace change
you see change is a shift from the
current situation to a pleasant
situation such as promotion or an ample
isn’t situation such as demotion breakup
or layoffs generally we tend to not
accept imposing situations and then we
experience them quite often our mental
emotional patterns of resistance become
activated you might be asking how at a
mental level which is observing we see
it we interpret it and then we start
judging we start complaining and
building our own narrative of what we
have seen then we repeat our narrative
out of what just happened we repeat it
over and over and we believe it thoughts
react in our body as emotions and in
case of unpleasant changes we experience
tension frustration you name it anger
and grief for what we think we have lost
whatever we do produces results pleasant
or unpleasant yeah it’s our perception
if we live long enough the experience
there is always a wind of change things
always go wrong in the process there is
always a loss in this physical world
some sad but we have a choice we have a
choice to make friends be changed we
have a choice to take action not a
reaction but action to engage and make
things better or live the situation
if nothing else externally is possible
then accept and embrace change accepting
an embracing change creates a space
within which enables us to have better
responses when external situations
change as a martial art don’t resist the
opponent’s force yield to overcome I
accepting an embracing change may hurt
that’s why we resist change this brings
me to the third lesson that I learned if
we see the full process it’s not the
change really we resist but rather it’s
the pain of the change the pain that is
most often caused by ourselves by our
mental emotional patterns of resistance
by how we see perceive and interpret the
daily events of our lives this is where
most of us gets stuck and a struggle to
lead ourselves and derive change so next
time if a change or an on prison
situation happens be compassionate with
yourself don’t be too harsh it’s okay to
be down it’s okay to be at the food of
the valley the roads to Peaks pass
through valleys if you’re leading others
and driving change imagine merger and
acquisition organizational restructuring
or leading digital transformation you
name it changes life first and foremost
define what it stays the same and what’s
going to change
and be honest and clearly communicate
both benefits and losses of this change
identified those in your organization or
going through the pain of the change
acknowledge their negative emotions have
empathy with them and support them in
their down moments let them grieve for
what they think they’ve lost this grief
might be or the loss might be for for a
reputation for a routine of job for
their job for the job of their
colleagues for the organization for a
hope for anything they have the right to
agree for what they think they have lost
you might be thinking that oh boy I’m
just so busy with the leading change and
I don’t have time to go that far or why
should I have empathy and and compassion
with us can be the others a simple
answer is because we are all human if
you’re dealing with each other sure we
cannot make change comfortable for
everybody but we can be compassionate
compassionate enough to listen not to
answer but listen to listen i minimize
the discomfort to identify and find the
source of resistance and to stay
connected and keep the bond to wrap it
up there is always a wind of change we
should learn how to sell in any given
situation we have a choice a choice to
make friends with change and it’s not
the change that we really resist but
rather is the pain of the change I
believe we are all leaders and we are
masters of our own fate let’s lead
and drive change consciously thank you

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